Listener Q&A: How Do You Help Someone Identify Their Strengths and Weaknesses?

Listener Q&A: How Do You Help Someone Identify Their Strengths and Weaknesses?

Today’s question comes from Shelley, a mom with ADHD kids, and a teacher with ADHD students. She wrote,

I’m married to a wonderful man with adhd and several of my children have adhd. I’m also a middle school special education teacher and fully half of my students have adhd. How can I as a teacher help my students learn about their own strengths and weaknesses and provide them with ways to try strategies that will help them succeed? I feel that we fail adhd kids in school by our own lack of knowing how to help them take ownership of their learning. 

Today’s question is answered by guest-expert, Dr. Kelli Miller, a licensed psychologist at Forman School.

If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in a future Q&A episode just like this reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need.

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Share:
Q&A with Dr. H: How Can I Be More Supportive of My Partner’s ADHD?

Q&A with Dr. H: How Can I Be More Supportive of My Partner’s ADHD?

Today’s question is about ADHD and romantic relationships. A listener reached out with the following:

“I recently started a wonderful relationship with someone who has ADHD. After about a month symptoms started flaring up and resulted in confusion and some difficult emotions.

I’m looking for advice on being as supportive a partner as I can be while he is dealing with this. And although I know there might not be anything— any way I can help.

I have concerns that maybe I was just an object of hyper focus in the beginning and now that is past. I also have concerns that our relationship threw a wrench in his routines and contributed to this happening.

I feel bad thinking that and he does still want me in his life. So maybe that thinking is just my own insecurities kicking in. I really care about this person and just want to do what I can for the best outcome.” 

In response, Ned shares his best advice on navigating a relationships with someone who has ADHD. He also gives lots of credit to his wife, Sue, for their successful marriage! 

If you have a question you’d like addressed in a future Q&A episode just like this reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].  

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need.

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share:
Q&A with Dr. H: How Do You Help Someone Who Refuses Help?

Q&A with Dr. H: How Do You Help Someone Who Refuses Help?

Ned responds to a worried mom who reached out looking for ways to help her 17 year old daughter. She wrote in part,

My daughter has been given numerous amounts of education about ADHD, she seems to have the right combination of medication now, and she gets exercise daily from being a studio competition dancer.

But she is still struggling. She is 17.5 yrs old, without a driver’s license, never had a job, she still operates in the world of now and not now, fights most structure that would help tackle tasks, closed off to any type of personal suggestion/coaching for ADHD, really struggling daily in most executive function skills such as organization and time.

17.5 is a hard age to still be living daily in what you describe “transparency, to the point of being honest to a fault”, especially with the lying and the “tendency to externalizations or blame others while not seeing their role in the problem” and it is becoming a huge concern for us about what her adult future will be like.

As her parents we feel very stuck, defeated and devastated that her future will be nothing but struggles that she doesn’t have to have, but will.

How do we help her be more receptive toward putting structure into her life and embracing the help of a coach? Both would give her more control over her outcomes, not just reacting to situations. These are the only two things I can think of that we haven’t already included in her life.”

If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in a future Q&A episode just like this reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need.

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share:
Q&A with Dr. H: How Can We Help ADHD Kids Manage Their Emotions?

Q&A with Dr. H: How Can We Help ADHD Kids Manage Their Emotions?

Today’s question is from a mom named Mary. She wrote:

My seven-year-old daughter Laura was diagnosed with ADHD combined type about a year ago. She is very smart and does well academically, but school is still a struggle.

She gets overwhelmed very easily and she falls apart crying or has screaming meltdowns in class frequently. This was only made worse by the changes made to schools with in-person learning during the pandemic.

Her teacher can’t hug her to help her feel secure. What strategies can you suggest to help kids with ADHD manage their emotions and have less overwhelming feelings?

Dr. H response includes several ways Mary can help her daughter, including one that involves a giant bean bag! If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in a future Q&A episode just like this reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].  

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need.

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our recording engineer/editor is Scott Persson and our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share:
Q&A with Dr. H: How Do I Help My Son Help Himself?

Q&A with Dr. H: How Do I Help My Son Help Himself?

Today’s question comes from Cindy, a concerned parent. She emailed Distraction and wrote in part, “Our 31 year old son has the most incredible “race car brain with bicycle brakes” that are in desperate need of maintenance… As parents of an adult with ADHD we struggle with how to help our son. How do we help him help himself?”

Dr. Hallowell responds by offering up a few ideas and encourages Cindy to jump in and help. “Sink or swim? In our world you sink,” he says in this episode. “So you need to jump in there with life jackets…” he continues.

If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in a future Q&A episode just like this reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].  

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need.

Get a copy of Ned’s newest book, ADHD 2.0 at DrHallowell.com or by clicking HERE

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our recording engineer/editor is Scott Persson and our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share:
Q&A with Dr. H: How Can I Build Up My Self-Esteem?

Q&A with Dr. H: How Can I Build Up My Self-Esteem?

Ned responds to a 20-year old college student who writes, “I started a new job at a science lab about two months ago and I’m not doing very well… I really related to the passage in your book about how one client felt like he had to “answer” to the preacher of self loathing and would get trapped in a hyperfixation around negative self-talk. How can I build up my self esteem and deconstruct the critic?”

If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in a future Q & A episode just like this, reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].  

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need.

Get a copy of Ned’s newest book, ADHD 2.0 at DrHallowell.com or by clicking HERE

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our recording engineer/editor is Scott Persson and our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share:
Q & A with Dr. H: How to Say ‘No’

Q & A with Dr. H: How to Say ‘No’

Saying ‘no’ is a skill that requires practice. In this Q&A Ned addresses a question from a high school student about guarding your time. He talks about how to learn to be okay with not accepting every request that comes your way.

This is a common issue for many with ADHD!

We hope you’re enjoying our new series of Q&A episodes! We’ll be releasing a new Q&A episode every Monday, thanks to our new sponsor, Forman School in Litchfield, Connecticut!

If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in an episode just like this, reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].

Learn more about our sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need. Ned loves Forman!

Get a copy of Ned’s newest book, ADHD 2.0 at DrHallowell.com or by clicking HERE. You can also find it wherever books are sold!

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our recording engineer/editor is Scott Persson and our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share:
Q&A with Dr. H: Finding the Right Career

Q&A with Dr. H: Finding the Right Career

Dr. H answers a question from a listener named Victor who is bored with his job, his co-workers and working from home in general. Victor reached out looking for advice about how to find a new job that suits him. Listen to hear the three main components Ned says are integral to finding the right career. This advice is applicable to everyone, with or without ADHD! 

We hope you enjoy this first episode in a series of Q&A episodes we’ll be releasing every Monday, made possible by our new sponsor, Forman School in Litchfield, Connecticut.

If you have a question or comment you’d like Dr. Hallowell to address in an episode just like this, reach out to us! Write an email or record a voice memo and send it to [email protected].  

Learn more about our new sponsor, Forman School, a coed college prep school dedicated to empowering bright students who learn differently in grades 9-PG. Forman School provides the individual attention these students need. Ned loves Forman!  

Get a copy of Ned’s newest book, ADHD 2.0 at DrHallowell.com or by clicking HERE. You can also find it wherever books are sold!  

Distraction is created by Sounds Great Media. Our recording engineer/editor is Scott Persson and our producer is Sarah Guertin.

Check out this episode!

Share: